Anthony de Mello Quotes (1931-1987)

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Anthony de Mello (4 September 1931 – 2 June 1987) was a Jesuit priest, psychotherapist and writer who became widely known for his books on spirituality.

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“Ideas kill people.”
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“Look for competence not claims.”
“When you are guilty, it is not your sins you hate but yourself.”
“Wisdom can be learned. But it cannot be taught.”
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“My commitment is not to consistency but to the Truth.”
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“The best things in life cannot be willed into being. ”
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“ Is there life before death? — that is the question!”
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“If you never condemned you would never need to forgive.”
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“Charity is really self-interest masquerading under the form of altruism.”
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“To those who seek to protect their ego true Peace brings only disturbance.”
“A good teacher offers practice, a bad one offers theories.”
“ You can will an act of service but you cannot will love. ”
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“Thought can organize the world so well that you are no longer able to see it.”
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“Silence is not the absence of sound, but the absence of self.”
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“There is no salvation till they have seen their basic prejudice.”
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“One year of life is worth more than twenty years of hibernation.”
“Whatever is truly alive must die. Look at the flowers; only plastic flowers never die.”
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“Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one's awareness of one's ignorance.”
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“The sun and its light, the ocean and the wave, the singer and his song — not one. Not two.”
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“The Master is not concerned with what we believe — only with what we see.”
“Every word, every image used for God is a distortion more than a description.”
“The Master never ceased to attack the notions about God that people entertain.”
“When I speak, you must not listen to the words, my dear. Listen to the Silence.”
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“No one is exempt from talking nonsense. The great misfortune is to do it solemnly.”
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“One always treads with a joyful step when one has dropped the burden called the ego.”

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Anthony de Mello on Ego 3 quotes

“To those who seek to protect their ego true Peace brings only disturbance.”
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Anthony de Mello on Kingdom of God 2 quotes

“To find the kingdom is the easiest thing in the world but also the most difficult. Easy because it is all around you and within you, and all you have to do is reach out and take possession of it. Difficult because if you wish to possess the kingdom you may possess nothing else.”
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Anthony de Mello on Charity

“Charity is really self-interest masquerading under the form of altruism.”
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Anthony de Mello on Nonsense

“No one is exempt from talking nonsense. The great misfortune is to do it solemnly.”
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Anthony de Mello on Solemnity

“No one is exempt from talking nonsense. The great misfortune is to do it solemnly.”
Anthony de Mello

Anthony de Mello on Mistakes

“Those who make no mistakes are making the biggest mistakes of all — they are attempting nothing new.”
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Anthony de Mello on Desire

“It is the desire for "the more" that prevents clear thinking, whereas if we are discontent, not because we want something, but without knowing what we want; if we are dissatisfied with our jobs, with making money, with seeking position and power, with tradition, with what we have and with what we might have; if we are dissatisfied, not with anything in particular but with everything, then I think we shall find that our discontent brings clarity. When we don't accept or follow, but question, investigate, penetrate, there is an insight out of which comes creativity, joy.”
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Anthony de Mello on Heaven

“If you want to know what it means to be happy, look at a flower, a bird, a child; they are perfect images of the kingdom. For they live from moment to moment in the eternal now with no past and no future. So they are spared the guilt and anxiety that so torment human beings and they are full of the sheer joy of living, taking delight not so much in persons or things as in life itself. As long as your happiness is caused or sustained by something or someone outside of you, you are still in the land of the dead. The day you are happy for no reason whatsoever, the day you find yourself taking delight in everything and in nothing, you will know that you have found the land of unending joy called the kingdom.”
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Anthony de Mello on Joy

“If you want to know what it means to be happy, look at a flower, a bird, a child; they are perfect images of the kingdom. For they live from moment to moment in the eternal now with no past and no future. So they are spared the guilt and anxiety that so torment human beings and they are full of the sheer joy of living, taking delight not so much in persons or things as in life itself. As long as your happiness is caused or sustained by something or someone outside of you, you are still in the land of the dead. The day you are happy for no reason whatsoever, the day you find yourself taking delight in everything and in nothing, you will know that you have found the land of unending joy called the kingdom.”
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Anthony de Mello on Now

“If you want to know what it means to be happy, look at a flower, a bird, a child; they are perfect images of the kingdom. For they live from moment to moment in the eternal now with no past and no future. So they are spared the guilt and anxiety that so torment human beings and they are full of the sheer joy of living, taking delight not so much in persons or things as in life itself. As long as your happiness is caused or sustained by something or someone outside of you, you are still in the land of the dead. The day you are happy for no reason whatsoever, the day you find yourself taking delight in everything and in nothing, you will know that you have found the land of unending joy called the kingdom.”
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Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger on Anthony de Mello 2 quotes

“He considers Jesus as a master alongside others. The only difference from other men is that Jesus is "awake" and fully free, while others are not. Jesus is not recognized as the Son of God, but simply as the one who teaches us that all people are children of God.”
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Note of caution added on Anthony de Mello

“The books of Father Anthony de Mello were written in a multi-religious context to help the followers of other religions, agnostics and atheists in their spiritual search, and they were not intended by the author as manuals of instruction of the Catholic faithful in Christian doctrine or dogma.”

T. K. Thomas on Anthony de Mello

“I must confess that I feel grateful for the banning, or the temporary withdrawal, of de Mello's books. I had heard of him, but never read his writings. Excommunication, somehow, has far more news value than beatification. So also the suppression of a book attracts greater publicity than its publication.”

Report on Anthony de Mello

“What's behind this phenomenal success? Very simply, it is a manifestation of the hunger for the spiritual spreading around the world. It's a hunger with very special characteristics. People aren't buying set formulas any more, or pius platitudes redolent of an era gone by; beaten tracks that did not succeed in bringing people to a spiritual awakening. There is an anguished search, sometimes confused in its direction, for a more liberal outlook. Modern man mired in profound cultural change first wants to know who he is, what imprisons his soul, what stands in the way of spiritual progress. He wants to rediscover the God beyond all that has been identified through the years with the name of God: laws, norms, doctrines not made flesh, words stranged from life. That is why Tony de Mello said that "our violent spirituality has created problems for us", that "Jesus Christ has got a bad name because of what is said of Him from pulpits" and that "it is very difficult to recognise a saint because he looks like the rest of us". In short, what Tony de Mello is telling us is that if we want to make Christianity credible we need to plumb the depths of the human spirit, to reach beyond our present frontiers.”

Misattributed Quotes

Quotes mistakenly credited to Anthony de Mello

“Never complain about what you permit.”

About Anthony de Mello

Anthony de Mello (4 September 1931 – 2 June 1987) was a Jesuit priest, psychotherapist and writer who became widely known for his books on spirituality.